I would agree here. Shelters are hell for both genders.

I was homeless with a three months old. Without a kid, I would have done as I always did and couch hopped or slept on benches til I got back on my feet, but I had a baby and wanted to get stable fresh out of a DV situation.

The shelter I stayed at had a “single” floor with both men and womed (divided by rooms) and the top floor was families.

Everyone likes helping a single moms out. And I made it out, got stable and its been 12 years without homelessness. It was because of those programs.

I know a lot of men slip through the cracks. I have met a handful who chose homelessness because thats where they find thier community. I get that, the most community I ever felt was in low places surrounded by others also in low places.

I’ve also met men like my bio father, who after years of addiction, homelessness, violence and prison time, was able to reach resources and get housed and remains comfortable.

These resources, especially now, are being cut. It’s definitely scary. I do think there are a lot of well, Walter Whites of the world, where rather than take help and admit vulnerability, they do it their own way, on thier own terms, fuck the consequences. All because being vulnerable and admitting you need help are like, anti-masculine traits in our current culture.

I think there are a lot of things that lead to men being homeless. There are programs, but usually worh strict requirements and some people, you just cant box them.

I will say for people with children, there are many more programs available.

To note, you don’t see many homeless women, and there is reason you don’t see them. When my mother was homeless she lived deep in the woods and moved around constantly as to avoid being detected. You wouldn’t have known she was homeless, if only because she had a car, but still.

I read the first paragraph, and as a woman, I feel the same! Solidarity!

Poverty isn’t just for men

If you’re hearing men are evil, you may be spending too much time online, or in the wrong places.

You and your ex are not the whole of society. I’ve dated shit bags too, I’ve seen both women and men be shit bags. This is what needs to be avoided, you cant generalize the entire female population because you and your ex wife had a shit fallout. Women shouldn’t generalize men in the same way either. I’ve seen it on the womens side, I call it out or leave the space.

Sometimes people just arnt meant for eachother. Keep hope and find new love.

It’s good practice to try and not judge new people in your life, based on how an old one treated you. Learn red flags sure, learn your own boundaries, learn what things in life you value, but the whole population is not you, nor your ex.

I completely agree if you call someone a bitch/dog/liar/asshole/whatever long enough, some people will respond by giving em what they ask. It’s tough. I hope youve found healing post divorce and feel happier today

I just want to point out, men are not by default worth less.

Well said, I will note Women have been the target of beauty ads for over 100 years already. Media will make us feel ugly so we buy thier products. They feed on our insecurities for profit, and it’s been this way for generations of women.

In the last 10-20 years, I have definitely noticed an uptick with capitalization on men’s insecurities. The whole manosphere schtick is about just that, exploiting insecurity.

I can’t reject the idea that with the current P2025 goals, and the billionaires pushing for their techno fudalism, that these things are related in some way.

Honestly, as a women, so it’s not my opinion that matters, but even that meme/joke/trend that “men are simple creatures”, “keep your belly fully and balls empty and we’re happy” ect, like, is that not demeaning to men?

The men in my life are just as complicated and multifaceted as anyone else. These kinds of jokes, or online rhetoric, to me, feel like y’all are calling men simple and dumb.

The men in my life are not simple or dumb.

Not all women are becons of morality.

While statistically women are more likely to have empathy and emotional understanding and more communication thus, we are not perfect by any sense.

Your underlying rhetoric here is deeply divisive. I agree men are more prone to violent action, whether in a leadership role or just as a person. It’s why more women attempt suicide but more men are successful.

We cant just throw men away. We start with the culture, we start with teaching boys emotional intelligence, language, and how to reach for support. Then, we don’t reject them for reaching for such support.

It should be considered masculine to show vulnerability, it is one of the hardest things to get used to, if you’ve not been allowed/able to for so long. However, vulnerability leads to personal growth. Real vulnerability, followed by acceptance from peers, will give personal growth, understanding, and acceptance.

Fathers, hug your sons and tell them you love them. Teach our sons better. Cultural change is slow, you jumping on to say it’s always mens fault is a shallow and lazy thought. You’ve put so little thought into the “whys”.

The men/women culture war has been amplified enough now, we need to come together and find how we can support eachother.

I’ve been a victim of multiple men. Like, it’s truly stupid, where somedays I hate myself solely for letting myself in these situations. But I don’t harbor hate for men. I feel bad for the ones who are lost, because I too have been lost.

I want us to focus more on solutions than just, bitching

https://youtu.be/v0dUnoecoZ0

I think most of us, here, have. It really is mostly old folks and idiots left now.

Someone mentioned here, their hoa uses fb as their digital square, and my park union does too. I just don’t get to get involved with the park union, Facebook unfortunately, has become ingrained in many community oriented organizations. I hate it. I refuse to go back there.

I don’t understand why people are ao eager to give their money and privacy to billionaires.

Maybe they used the wrong language. You roll your eyes, so you don’t hate life, heard.

So then why, genuinely, do you reject the idea of community with such conviction?

Eh, I became a stay at home mom over the pandemic, and while I’ve never worked in an office, but on the shop floor, I do miss the shenanigans. But its almost like a trauma bond, where its like, hey, we’re all stuck here, best make the nest of it and try snd have fun while we are here.

I’m fully isolated now, and at this point terrified of crowds, when i never was before.

Not arguing at all people who can work remotely shouldn’t, they should, for a litter or reasons. But I do miss my coworkers from my employee owned factory where culture was held in high standard. Im also not arguing this should be the only place one finds community, I’m only saying, for a person like me, it helped sometimes to joke around on the new guy or collectively bitch about issues at work or hear other folks problems and offer advice or help when I could.

We socialized outside of work too. I can’t get invited to a party, or a wedding, or anything if I literally don’t know anyone. I’ve only ever known how to make friends in structured environments. But that’s wierdo me.

I’m sorry to hear this. What makes you say this?

Fine, yes. I was just throwing an idea out there. I don’t know how to pirate shit anymore, and am to an age where I can afford to support artists directly, so if one can, one should.

Where did the music to pirate come from back in the day? Was it not uploaded from a CD and then file shared?

I did learn in this thread there are numerous other streaming services I was completely unaware of, so thats cool

Yeah it was okay here too, until he hit middle school and a classmate mate told him about it …sigh…

They don’t stay little for long, I know but I was not prepared!

In the early years of Spotify I liked that it stored the songs on your sctual device, so you didnt need an active Internet connection to listen to the songs.

No algorithm but buying physical media again is one path.

A few months ago I got a couple CDs and I’m hoping to rebuild my collection and get off Spotify. It supports artists better, and YouTube is still there to help discover new music.

Buy a CD a month instead of your service. A roll back for technology of course, but worth trying imo

Our musicians are getting fucked with streaming services and I like directly supporting them.

I dislike that you can’t block NSFW stuff. My son found NSFW stuff on Spotify… and I had to take it off our Living Room Tv and ban him from using it for now. I think you can block accounts, but there were so many… Go ahead, search tits on Spotify… fucking wild to me it’s not moderated.

Not my looking like a psychopath to my husband deleting my long time google account to set up a burner (because i cant even use maps/tap to pay without one).

I’m tired of being tracked. Being on lemmy I’ve gotten multiple ideas to help negate these apps/tracking models. I am ever greatful. Theres stil so much more I need to learn/do however.

There have a been a few times over the last few years, that my “bullshit- this is an extemist plant/propaganda” meter has gone off for left leaning individuals.

Meaning these comments/videos are aimed to look like they are left folks, but are meant to make the left look bad/extremist in order to push people from the working class movements.

Im truly a layman, but you just know its out there. The goal is indeed to divide us, and everyone should be suspect of everything the see on the Internet and do proper vetting of their sources.